Dear Abby: My husband and I are the parents of three adult sons. “Kurt”, 29, has been in conflict with his brother “Jared”, 26, for over a year.
Kurt began to do standing comedy but still works day work to pay his bills. Jared has now started to comedy.
We suspect that the disagreement started long before they are standing, but now there are names, and both refuse to be in the same room as the other.
Kurt wants Jared to leave the comedy because he thinks it is an invasion of his life as well as his friend of a friend. Kurt said mean things to these shared friends. Jared apologized to Kurt for his past behavior, which included excessive consumption of alcohol and other destructive activities.
Kurt has not attended a family rally where Jared has been present for over a year. Recently, Kurt said he would attend our vacation and could be civil, but now Jared says he will not be in the same room with him because they have not had a dialogue and that personal attacks were not addressed. He wants Kurt to be held responsible.
They had a mixed advice session. The two found it counterproductive.
My sons are adults and we cannot tell them how to live their lives.
As you can imagine, we find nothing of that. As parents, we don’t know how to manage this. Your advice is greatly appreciated.
– Parents in Ohio disorders
DEAR PARENTS:: You I cannot solve this problem. Your sons are adults and will have to reach a relaxation by themselves.
Continue to invite your two sons to family gatherings and hope that Jared will undress.
Comedy is a difficult field. May the best actor be left standing.
Dear Abby: I had a house house that helps me take care of my home in the past 30 years.
It sometimes comes every week, sometimes every two weeks. She works part -time in another job and we work around her schedule.
When I retired five years ago and the pandemic started, I was sitting full time for my grandchildren. Everyone is at school now, and I think I would like to clean the house myself.
I like cleaning, although I welcomed help when I worked full time and took care of my children and then grandchildren.
My house house and I are friendly and visits when she is here. I wonder how to finish this relationship, as well as what I owe him for his loyalty and help.
– Pennsylvania cleaning house
Dear cleaning house: Talk to your cleaning lady and explain what you think.
Offer him several months’ salary. Then, instead of cutting it completely, ask if it would come to you once a month “to catch all the places you are missing, as well as to visit”. (You said you became a friend.)
After cleaning for about a month, you can see that it is not as pleasant as you remember and increase the visits to the woman if It is always available. Good cleaning women are difficult to find and it can be busy.
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