There are many mysteries surrounding sex in the sixties, the 70s and beyond.
Look online and you will find countless sons where curious young people ask if elderly people have sex, and if they have it, what it looks like. “What is it?” Others wonder. (Well, we imagine? It’s always sex!)
The mystery surrounding sex at older age comes from a combination of factors, according to Shannon Chavez, approved psychologist and sex therapist in Beverly Hills, California.
First, societal taboos and elderly attitudes led to a marginalization of the sexuality of the elderly. No one wants to imagine the age of the people of their grandparents or parents with sex, so we threw these thoughts. What we obtain accordingly are limited discussions and representations of sex later in life; Think of the few scenes that we see of the elderly who get it in movies and television, and how often sex and viagra post-50 are the target of the joke for late evening actors.
We will all come to age possibly (hopefully, anyway), but because we have stigmatized sex so much after the 50 years, we are badly prepared for realities, said Chavez.
“There is a complete lack of sex education adapted to older age groups, leaving many uninformed people on the changes and challenges they may face with regard to sexuality as they age,” she told HuffPost.
“All of this leads to false ideas and curiosity about what sexual experiences are in life later,” she said. “Overall, increased awareness, education and an open dialogue on sex and aging can help eliminate mystery and promote healthier attitudes towards sexuality in older groups.”
The encouraging reality is that those who are aged AARP always, appreciating and wishing sex, even when they are not coupled. Four out of 10 people aged 65 to 80 are still sexually active, according to a 2018 study of the national survey on healthy aging. And whether or not they have an active sex life, almost two thirds of the elderly said they were interested in sex. More than half have said that sex is important for their quality of life, according to the same study.
To shed light on sex after 70 years, we asked sex and people over 70 to share certain things that people should know about gender in the golden years. See what they had to say below.
The responses were slightly modified for more clarity and length.
Your need to feel desired is not content to disappear.
“I can only speak for my wife and I, but I think that one of the greatest things that did not speak is the motivation of sex and physical pleasure – to be sought, to have this feeling of giving and receiving physical release, as well as emotional humans – never disappear.
“There are certain things that should be developed, of course: erectile dysfunction, extreme drought, difficult or even unwanted limited or even unwanted relationships to have sex.
“I think the biggest problem is the stigma of being old, with gray hair or flashless breasts and buttocks, means that there is no need for sex. When we were in the fifties, we thought that if we were alive in our 70s, we would have finished. To our good surprise, it’s just the opposite. ” – Frank, 76, who lives in Texas Panhandle and has been married for almost 53 years
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The frequency decreases but quality often increases.
“I think the most surprising thing about sex after 70 years for many people is that it has the potential to be better than ever. Many of my clients in the 70s (and 80s!) Report that if sex frequency generally decreases with age, quality improves. Sometimes this is linked to the so-called penetration is a pleasure dysfunction. – Jess O’Reilly, a sexologist and the host of the Podcast Sex With Dr. Jess
Erectile dysfunction does not need to end your sex life.
“I have been treated with Ed for over 20 years. My wife could never orgasm with (vagina penis) but now has at least two or three orgasms and often more. I guess you could call it advanced preliminaries: I use my mouth, my hands and my leg to stimulate it. She then stimulates me until I’m over. ” – Norm, 71, southeast of Michigan
Aging can cause physical barriers, but there are bypass.
“Aging can cause physical changes that should not be obstacles to the dissemination of sex. Aging naturally causes changes in physical comfort and mobility such as arthritis, joint pain or mobility limitations that can be easily treated using products such as pillows for support, trying different sexual positions which are less demanding, or incorporating lubricants to reduce the opening and adapt to a more appreciable and fulfilling change. Her body can help the elderly continue to engage in pleasant sexual activities. – Chavese
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Sexual adventure and creativity develop with experience.
“It is not because our bodies are exhausted. And, really, who cares if they do it? – David Daniel, a 70 years old in Cedar Rapids, Iowa
It can be painful, especially for women.
“The aging process has an enormous impact on sexual functioning and satisfaction. In addition, as we age, we tend to have more medical problems and many drugs can have an impact on sexual function. As we age, we often feel changes in our sexual behavior, our desire, what we find exciting and sexual well-being. The decrease in estrogen production includes vaginal drought, the decrease in lubrication and loss of elasticity in vaginal tissues. – Rachel NeedlePsychologist in West Palm Beach, Florida, and co -director of modern sexual therapy institutes
Sometimes it is more emotional bond.
“Emotional connection and intimacy are a priority and sex becomes intentional and more of the experience they have. These are less the sexual scripts and acts of sex and more of the type of connection and proximity which can be acquired by mutually pleasant experiences together. Motivation for sex can be less well appearing together, to please your partner, to feel the experience. ” – Chavese
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Sexual desire is “supposed” to be spontaneous, but it is not always in this way, especially as we age.
“Some data suggest that very few women generally experience a postmenopause sexual desire. A study revealed that 24% never feel of desire and 41% rarely experience the desire for desire. But 91% experience excitement (and pleasure). What we can learn about this is that you cannot put yourself in the mood – with a fantastic – O’reilly
It’s about managing your expectations.
“If you believe that Reddit and other online forums, some people make love several times a day. I told the people of Reddit that we make love every Friday. We tell anyone who wanted to see us on Friday that we have a previous commitment. Our family knows that Friday is our cold day and that we never bother. Could we have sex more often? Lots of hugs and kisses during the week, just to be close. ” – Standard
