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To Listen Better, Try Silence: NPR

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To Listen Better, Try Silence: NPR

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Being a good listener can transform your conversations and improve your relationships. It is also extremely hard work.

To become a better listener, there is a super simple, super important, but very hard tip to do: stop talking.

“If you rearrange the letters of the word ‘listen’, it becomes ‘silent’,” says Tania Israel, professor of psychology at the University of California, Santa Barbara and author of the book. Beyond your bubble.

When you interrupt someone while they’re talking, even if it’s to insert the perfect, evidence-based response, “What that’s going to do is communicate that you don’t really care what that person said, and that’s going to stop them from sharing more with you,” Israel says.

Instead, approach a conversation from a place of intellectual humility, she suggests. Next, “you really come from a place where you recognize that you can still have your own opinions and be interested in and respectful of someone else’s.”

It can be difficult to calm your mind – and your voice – to understand what another person is saying, especially if you disagree with them. But a little silence can go a long way toward a healthy, productive, and respectful conversation.

(Quick disclaimer here: the basis of listening is respect, so don’t put up with people who don’t respect your boundaries or talk abusively.)

Here are five tips to help you develop your listening skills.

22 tips for 2022 is edited and curated by Dalia Mortada, Arielle Retting, Janet W. Lee, Beck Harlan, Beth Donovan and Meghan Keane. This tip is from an episode of Life Kit hosted by Julia Furlan and produced by Andee Tagle.

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