TikToker Allison Kuch reveals why she won’t share her daughter online

This is why, when asked what she learned after four months in the trenches, she avoids speaking in absolutes.

Her advice to new moms is: “It’s really hard, but you’ll get through it,” Allison insisted. “No baby is the same, no mom is the same. So as much as I wish I could give people this, like, ‘Oh, this will make everything better,'” no one wins.

The key, she continued, is instead “to be patient with yourself. Because I think I had expectations like, ‘Oh, I have to be perfect, I have to do this, I don’t don’t want to ruin it.’ But as long as you have your child’s best interests at heart and always do your best, you’ll be fine.'”

And Allison isn’t the only rookie enjoying her mom’s first birthday. Day Weekend, check out the other new moms who have gotten into the game over the past 12 months.