Dear Harriette: I think that one of my friends can have food dependence.
Over the years, I noticed that she had an unhealthy attachment to food. If we are at a dinner, her plate is stacked or she hides a plate to take away or eat several portions throughout an event.
I tried to encourage him to have some self -control – just like other friends and close to it – but that doesn’t work.
The other day, she continued to complain about needing food before going to a dinner, and I couldn’t take it. I told him to drink water and stop asking questions about food.
It did not go well. She told me I was rude.
I am worried about its eating habits, but I don’t know how to pass it.
– Overate
Dear overate: Followed with your friend. Tell him that you did not intend to hurt his feelings when you told her about food, but you have to share comments with her. Ask him to accept listening before continuing.
If she is able to hear you, explain that you have noticed that she seems to have an unhealthy relationship with food and that you worry about her. What you have described seems that it could eat as security coverage.
A psychologist can be useful to him. Talking to a professional who understands human behavior, especially around food, can provide the support she needs to talk about what’s going on with her and solve the problems she could have.
Know that you can make this recommendation, but it must believe that it is important and act itself. If she doesn’t do it, do your best not to judge her.
Dear Harriette: I come out soon from prison and I worry about what will follow.
When I left the house, things were a bit rocky with my family. Some people have stayed in contact and others have created a distance, but I wonder if there is space for reconciliation.
I’m really sorry for any difficulty I have caused to my family. How can my family and I cure and move forward?
– Go home
Dear to go home: Take things one day at a time.
Prepare for success by making sure you have a place to live. If you have a parole agent or another representative of the law with whom you need to connect, have it immediately sorted.
Then, be in contact with the members of the family who supported. Thank them for being there for you and tell them that you will appreciate it if they continue to make your back. You know it will be difficult to get back into life outside, and you don’t want to feel alone.
For other family members, contact everyone and tell them that you intend to change your life. Undertake to show them by your actions that they can be proud of you. Then do it.
The reconstruction of confidence takes time. You can do it if you put your mind.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of Dreamleapers, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to Askharriette@harriettecole.com or to the syndication Andrews McMeel, 1130, rue Walnut, Kansas City, MO 64106.
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