Dear Abby: My husband and I organize each vacation gathering for our family. With each party, before eating, we say a prayer of Catholic meal because we are religious.
Recently, the nieces and nephews of my husband, who are at the beginning of the twenty, ceased to participate in prayer. I agree with that, but they speak and make fun of our prayer while we pray.
How can we manage this? Our children noticed how inappropriate they were.
I understand if they do not want to participate, but should they not sit down quietly and respect us? I am against them who enter us, mocking our religion, then put their hand for a gift.
Thank you for all the words of wisdom.
– Faithful hostess in Pennsylvania
Dear hostess: Wow. The behavior of your husband’s nieces and nephews is beyond rudeness.
If they do not wish to join you in prayer before the sector, they absolutely Should be respectful and sit quietly until you finish.
When this happens, the first words in your husband’s mouth after “Amen” should be say Those what they do is rude and not appreciated.
If he cannot resolve to do so, the ball will be in your yard.
Dear Abby: At 63, I am the youngest sister of four brothers and sisters. We have grown up in the turmoil of alcoholism and holes of dad, as well as the physical and emotional abuses of our two parents.
One of my sisters, “June”, was sexually assaulted by my brother. She is 71 years old now and has not worked since she was at the start of the thirties. She supports himself on Social Security and a pension from her ex-husband.
His ex-husband recently died and the pension stopped. She now expects my sister and I paid her rent because she is “too old to work”.
Abby, June is perfectly capable of obtaining a part -time job. She refuses to ask anything despite the fact that I told her that I will pay her rent for only two more months.
My other sister, “Lisa”, cultivates me saying: “We don’t want to see her in the street.”
I am about to retire after working 48 years. I worked two jobs until the age of 52. I am extremely angry with the situation. Although I can afford it, I don’t think this should be my responsibility because June will not make any effort to help herself.
Advice?
– Brothers drama in New York
Dear brother drama: Plan a family discussion for yourself and your two sisters. At that time, tell them that you are ready to help June and, if She gets a part -time job, you would be ready to pay part rent if Lisa will divide the cost with you.
Do this only if your two sisters are ready to make a joint effort.
Dear readers: At sunset, the first night of Passover begins. This great Jewish celebration celebrates the most important event in Jewish history, the release of the Jewish people of slavery in Egypt. Happy Passover to my readers who observe this important vacation. – Love, Abby
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby on www.dearabby.com or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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