- My husband and I were married at the beginning of my twenties, and we loved being dinks.
- Then my stepfather told us that he wanted grandchildren. We decided to have children.
- The fact that our son has changed our lives in many ways, but I don’t regret anything.
My husband and I are married at the tender age aged 21 and 24. I loved our lifeless life – cycling in bars and restaurants nearby, standing late and sleeping and stampening with friends. We were young, in love, and the world was wide open. Basically, I was not even sure I want children. It was as if we could continue to be Dinks forever.
Then, in 2012, a conversation with my stepfather changed everything.
My stepfather told us that he wanted grandchildren on his birthday
For her 60th anniversaryWe celebrated in an unlimited buffet in a smoked casino. I sat next to him. “We did not know what to offer you for your birthday,” I said, feeling guilty that my husband and I presented empty-handed. “What do you want?” I asked. “We are going to bring it the next time we will see you.”
“The grandchildren,” he said, in fact when he opened a crab leg.
My face has gone red.
“Oh, don’t listen to her,” said my mother-in-law, cutting him with playfulness.
My stepfather shook his head. “No. I’m serious.” There was a shine in his eyes. Suddenly, I saw the life of his point of view. He was 60 years old with No grandchildren. His own father died when he was young, and his mother did not live very long beyond 60 years. In his mind, he did not know how many good years he had left, and he wanted to spend them with his grandchildren.
I didn’t want to deny it, but I was also young in my whole life in front of me. A baby would derail the life I loved.
Then my husband and I keep an 18-month-old baby for a weekend. Looking at my husband pushing him into the swing, his bright little laughs, fired on my heart.
At that time, I saw the beauty of parenting for the first time. Later, I spoke to my husband. Unlike me, my husband had no aspirations to travel before you have children – He was happy to settle in paternity at 26 years old.
When I I talked about maternityI was pregnant. I felt torn between the life I considered and this new future which included a baby, but ultimately, I chose to look at the circumstance through the objective of the adage: Everything happens for a reason.
Although this attitude helped me feel More excited by my pregnancyI have always had trouble. The constant nausea and exhaustion have made me more difficult to focus on my studies as a graduate diploma and my full -time work.
My husband and I also fought, especially, the new responsibilities we have faced and my pregnancy hormones. The days of happiness of the honeymoon scene seemed to slide through our fingers. However, none of us considered pregnancy with regret.
When we took my parents -in -law and my parents to eat in our favorite Mexican restaurant, I gave them each a gift – my favorite picture book, Madeline. Inside, I had scratched the words, “Read me on November 18”, then I informed them that we were pregnant and it was my due date.
Take the look of joy on their faces, especially the face of my stepfather, amplified my excitement.
During our gender revelation, we told everyone that we had a boy, and His second name would be Ignacio, after my stepfather. When I turned to catch his reaction to the news, tears ran down his cheeks.
The author and her husband had their son after his stepfather said he wanted grandchildren. With the kind permission of Kris Ann Valdez
Having a baby at the start of our wedding changed things
I became a mother three weeks after being 24 years old. Having a baby added pressure to our wedding; Our goal was now on the child and not on our connection. However, looking at my husband taking care of another human being so much of a deeper respect for him. As parents, we have learned to be more altruistic and Our wedding is better For that.
Motherhood has proven to be the sweetest gift for other reasons. To a class “mom and me”, I met a group of extraordinary women. We have linked to white nights, breastfeeding misfortunes and baby stages. Our friendship dug deeply and 12 years later, I am still close to this group.
I don’t regret anything
My parents-in-law proved to be the most dedicated grandparents in the world. Our son is an important part of their lives. Their phones are full of photos and videos of him – they say that he gave them a new call and a new goal.
And, of course, I would not exchange my son either. If we had expected to have children longer, I would never have known this child, this joy, this love.
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