Dear Abby: My husband, “Leon”, and I have been together for 13 years. He is bisexual – gay -author. I knew it when we gathered.
I am 51 years old and Leon is 32 years old. We have an 11 -year -old daughter together, and I have two adult children from a previous wedding.
We always love ourselves deeply, but he is also in relation to a man. His boyfriend is 21 years old.
I always agreed with the fact that Leon had friends with advantages. But this new relationship makes me feel lost and confused. I do not want our marriage to be ruined because of his relationship with this man, and I am afraid that it could happen well.
After being married for so long, I have the impression that my best friend is also torn. We have gone through a lot together. This tidal wave of emotions takes over me.
Please help. I don’t know what to do.
– Losing hope in Idaho
Dear losing hope: When you married Leon, you did it knowing that it would be an open marriage. Neither you nor your husband took into account that he could meet someone whom he could fall deeply in love.
In these circumstances, your feelings are understandable. Couple advice can help you adapt to the new reality, and I warmly recommend it. Your doctor should be able to refer you.
Dear Abby: I am injured and angry with the fusion I feel from my family because they disapprove of my incarcerated fiancé.
I am in sixties and I have been working for 20 years as an advisor in higher education. I am engaged to a wonderful man who serves a sentence of imprisonment in perpetuity in the South.
We have been writing and we’ve talked by phone and video for over two years. We recently had our first visit. We love ourselves very much.
I have just moved to her condition so that we can visit each month and therefore I can be close to his family.
My family now blocked me on social networks, on the phone and by e-mail. Before doing it, they told me that I am mentally disturbed and I said they wanted nothing more to do with me.
I tried several times to extend an olive branch, but they ignore me. Is there something I can do to reconnect?
– Avoid in the South
Dear avoided: Your loved ones can feel how they do it because they are concerned about you, or the crime for which your fiancé has been imprisoned for their own security if it was released one day.
Is it eligible for parole, or will your relationship continue to be a visit once a month to life?
You seem to be an educated and attentive individual. But do not rely on retirement with your family – at this stage, their minds seem to be invented.
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