- I only heard bad things about distance relationships. That they are hard and are not worth it.
- Goodbye, drinks with a colleague led to a first epic meeting and we decided to try our luck on love.
- We have made our long distance relationship work and now we are married. I’m happy to have listened to my heart.
For most of my life, I had heard only bad things on Long distance relationships. Sentences like “they never work” or “they are not worth it” come to mind. However, negative connotations did not stop me when I met my husband now. OUR connection It was just too strong, and I knew I would regret it if I did not do it.
I had never met anyone with whom I had so many common points, from tastes of music and cinema to large values. So when he told me that he had to return to the United Kingdom because his Canadian working vacation visa was about to expire, I took a risk.
It was in July 2018, and we turned into fast friends after having become colleagues a few months ago. We came out for what was supposed to be a relaxed farewell glass, but the night ended up lasting 2 p.m. while we chat, laugh, sing and leases from one place to another. At the end, we admitted that we both had feelings for each other. We knew that things would be complicated with his flight a few days, but there was something there. As he landed in the United Kingdom, we both sent a text that we wanted to try our luck in a romantic relationship.
Long distance did not last long
We were long distance For 10 months, seeing itself only twice before moving to the United Kingdom in May 2019. The distance was difficult, but that encouraged us to show creativity to maintain our connection. We spent every moment that we could send each other and find romantic challenges, such as creating personalized reading lists and sending postal mail.
What I think I have helped the most is that we define Current objectives For our relationship. At the beginning, these were planning visits, then it decided on a permanent decision. As a couple, we always had something to hope for.
As much as I missed in the months that we were not physically togetherI never felt that our connection was declining. Excitation and anticipation made me feel like a child waiting for Christmas – a defined positive aspect of long distance relationships.
Build a lasting love
Now, we have been physically together for six years, and although many things have changed – we got married in 2021 and returned to Canada in 2023 – one thing remained coherent: our love for each other.
I grew up believing that the old adage on love and relationships being difficult, but my marriage has refuted a million times. From our initial conversations to our regular days now, our relationship has always been easy. The challenges we had to face were difficult (apart from distance and immigration, we also resisted the pandemic and treated the disease and loss within our families), but our love, our respect and our mutual support made easier.
And despite the big sacrifices that we had to make for each other, like moving through the ocean, I learned that the little things are just as important. Doing little service actsLike we make our favorite drinks throughout the day, or simply give space to do our own thing. What started as a whirlwind turned into a peaceful state, and that completely changed my perspective on love.
I learned that with the right person, obstacles are not something to fear – it is something that you face together and that you finally develop stronger at the other end.
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