I would go out with him without the interference of this woman

Dear Harriette: One of my nearby friends likes to play the role of Cupid. His interest in the life of love of others could be well intentioned, but for me, it seems invasive.

I am generally a little reserved in my love life, but my friends know a certain person who interests me. There has been a subtle flirt, and so far, I like slow burn.

The last time we were all together, my friend took her to tell my crush that I am shy and that I just need a push in the right direction.

I was irritated and uncomfortable for the rest of this night, when she was quite proud of herself. I thought it was immature, and that’s not how I want to be perceived by anyone, not to mention someone with whom I could get involved.

Since then, he asked if only we could do something, and I told him that I would let him know.

I still love her, but I feel so embarrassed and aware of me now. Am I reacting excessively?

– Unslined help

Dear unlined help: Look beyond your arrogant friend for a moment the opportunity in front of you.

The guy you love you asked to go out. Go for it.

It may be like you, a little shy and needs a push to take a step. While your friend must take care of her own business, she may have been doing you a service by generating a reaction. Do not allow your anger to blur your vision.

You can simply go with the flow to see how the date takes place, or you can say the elephant directly in the room: tell him that your friend made you embarrass, but you are happy that you both share for a moment.

Dear Harriette: Two years ago, I was in an abusive relationship – definitively emotionally and ultimately physically abusive.

The person I was with abandonment problems, and I stayed because I wanted to show him that not everyone leaves. After crossing the abuses, I realized that I was not what would heal or change it.

When I finally finished it, I broke all the links. I thought I had covered all my bases, and almost two years of zero contact had cheated on me that everything was behind me.

Then, I received a long email from him asking me if I could allow him to apologize. He explained that he was now in therapy dealing with all the things that made him so angry to start and recognize that I didn’t deserve anything from what he put to me.

I feel so proud of the two years without contact that I have given myself, but part of me feels excuses.

Will his apologies help me move on? Do I take steps back?

– cuts