I want to raise my children to be independent; My husband Bébait

I am a South Asian woman raised in the Melting Pot of New Delhi, the capital of India. As a progressive person with an international childhood exhibition, I grew up living different cultures, perspectives and horizons.

My husband, on the other hand, grew up more conservative and now has a traditional vision of life and culture.

Before we get married, we discussed our history, but we did not explore how our differences would affect our parenting. We naively thought that love would conquer all the problems we have faced.

But these differences have infiltrated the way we raise our children, which causes certain problems.

I want my children to be independent and become socially responsible people

I have two children: my daughter is 16 years old and my son is 11 years old. I raise them to be independent children. I want them to think and manage by themselves – and do not count on anyone for anything.

I let my children finish their homework independently. I do not constantly monitor them to make sure their work is done. I don’t baby either or do not run by picking up after them. I try to teach my children to be responsible and responsible.

From a young age, my children helped home. They helped me put clothes in the washing machine, washing the cupboards and cleaning the tables. My children also like to help while I cook or cooking.

I also teach them to be free and independent thinkers. Unlike typical Indian parents who want their children to become doctors or engineers, I want them to pursue areas that fascinate them – and do not become who my husband and I want them to be.

My children are aware of a world beyond the vision of the limited world they see in India and can integrate as global citizens. I take them to museums, zoos and aquariums. I let them read an eclectic range of books to extend their minds.

I believe that social responsibility begins at a young age. My children volunteered with me, planted young trees and spent time with the elderly in an old age house.

My husband, on the other hand, wants baby our children

My husband’s conservative history influenced his parenting. He wants our children to depend on him. He also wants to make all the decisions for them.

My husband still feeds our son and sometimes even our teenage daughter. They are both old enough to eat.

My husband goes too far with purchases and folies on it. He wants to provide them with everything he did not grow up.

In addition, I don’t like the idea that my children are on digital devices for long hours, but my husband allows them to get away with anything. They both have phones, laptops and an Xbox. I prefer that they are transported to magic worlds through books, play board games or make arts and crafts.

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Our differences in parenting have created a certain friction in our relationship

From time to time, my husband and I meet situations where we rely on how to raise our children, which leads to friction in our marriage. Sometimes our differences even cause arguments, so we constantly discuss our views to make sure we understand each other.

Since mom and dad are not always on the same wavelength, my children notice and sometimes take advantage of it. When they do not reach a parent, they often go to the other.

In the end, I know my husband and I just want the best for our children and I will do our best to provide it. Even if my children get a mixture of parental styles, I know they will finally become educated adults.