Dear Miss Manners: I am at the end of the twenty and I have become gray from the preschool.
My hair is now about 95% gray. I love it, and I get many compliments on this subject, to which I always say thank you and answer all the questions.
What confuses me is that at least once a month, a foreigner asks me if I know that I have gray hair. Not if it is natural, or at what age I became gray, but “Do you know that you have gray hair?”
It bogs me – Yes, I am aware of my own hair color. I have mirrors. It is also long enough so that I can see it descend my shoulders without mirror.
What would be the right way to answer?
Soft reader: “Really?” In a tone of an extreme surprise, and with one hand to your hair. Miss Manners would probably add: “Do you have a mirror that I could borrow?”
But for those who want less drama, maybe “thank you for letting me know.”
Or simply “thank you”, with the presumption that he must be conceived as a compliment.
Dear Miss Manners: According to the files of “Good Manners Run, Amok”, is it still rude to be friendly?
I work in an animated environment where my only 30 -minute break is in a shared pause room, where I like to read or simply eat quietly and enjoy tranquility. A colleague arrives daily to use the microwave and always announces his entry with a very strong and cheerful: “Hello everyone!”
Two minutes later, having made no other conversation, she leaves with an equally noisy, “spend a good afternoon, everyone!”
When she makes these announcements, most people choose to interrupt their conversations, chewing or silent activities to respond in kind … twice. It is rude not to do it.
However, I ignore his well -intention but general and, in my opinion, the disruptive greetings and remain silent. It has become a daily discomfort for me, because I cannot shake the feeling that I have to answer.
Is it ignorant of ignoring such non-targeted greetings, or is I right to think that it is, in fact, the one who commits the error in the label?
Mild player: Oh, please. The greeting colleagues are rude because he interferes with chewing?
Miss Manners is afraid that the time you spent working from a distance to have distorted your idea of college behavior.
It is true that having to treat colleagues as dear friends was a farce that could now be recognized as such. You do not need to start unrelated conversations to work or socialize with them after the hours.
But you must observe the decency to recognize their presence. Even if it means sacrificing the reading time, you need to say hello.
Dear Miss Manners: My husband and I are invited to obtain the secondary school diploma from our neighbor next month.
The neighbor’s family name begins with a C, and my husband suggested leaving the ceremony after our neighbor (in alphabetical position) crosses the scene.
I find it rude, but I also understand that these ceremonies are long and it is a senior class of 450. What is your opinion on this subject?
Mild player: Whether you should leave after Z or before A. By this last solution, Miss Manners means refusing the invitation, with warm congratulations to the neighbors.
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