Helicopter parent: I am exaggerated in the life of my college

• I have a close link with my children – especially with my only daughter, who has just started university.
• I often contact her teachers to see if she is fine and if she is going well in class.
• My daughter wants me to respect her limits, but I have trouble.

I have always been a practical mom. Since my children were young, I wanted to be there for all the moments counting.

With my husband who works most of the time, it was only me and my little ones, so we developed an unbreakable link.

Although I never wanted my sons and my daughter to grow up, time spent time and they were in their adolescence in no time.

Of course, my boys are older and I did not worry much about them. They finished the school, moved and left my daughter and I fend for ourselves. It was until my daughter started university, and now I find it hard to let go.

I have always kept a vigilant eye on my daughter

Like my sons, my daughter became major and registered in college. The decision to live far from my home struck me hard because it meant that I had to cut the cord.

For many years, I have taken care of every little thing she needs. I know his passenger codes and his credit card number.

I had good reasons to be super focused on the well-being of my daughter because she is my only daughter. I have always protected this fact, and although my boys can always take care of themselves, I think it’s different with my daughter.

I cannot loosen my catch on it even if it is at university now

Seeing my daughter at the university was soft to be. During the first month or two, I am constantly worried about the way she would do – that she will make good friends or if she would find her way through the campus.

My only logical conclusion was to keep an eye on it. I regularly contact his campus faculty.

Like any parent concerned, I called his university teachers several times and asked if she was taking all her courses and if she seems in distress. I also follow his notes. Hearing her teachers that she is fine is the only thing that sometimes comforts me.

I also checked to make sure she gets her laundry.

I always focus on daily life, even if it lives far from my home.

Although my daughter does not appreciate my efforts, desperate times call for desperate measures.

My daughter is now asking for space

My exaggerated exam has set out for our relationship because she feels that I do not give her the independence she wants if.

I find it hard to rationalize with its way of thinking when I go beyond to check it because I care. All mom will tell you that the issues are always raised with regard to our children.

Even when we do things that others do not understand, it is generally in the best interest of our children.

However, conversations with my daughter give me a chance to reassess myself as well as my actions. I think I’m just afraid to let her go and lose her in the process. I have little or no control over her life in the future and I realize that she does not need me as she did. She is no longer a little girl but turns into an intelligent and independent young woman.

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I try to let go

I learned that over-generating our children remove their feelings of competence and autonomy, which is accompanied by their link with us. I don’t want to risk this with my daughter, so I learn to give her the space she needs at school.

We had follow -up conversations to discover what she agrees and where she feels that I exceed the limits. It was an important step to understand what she needs and identify where she feels unknown or uncomfortable.

These changes will not occur overnight, and I always take care of the incessant desire to check it at school, but slowly, I learn to stop the microgestion of her life.