Do I have to clean myself in my second secret house?

Dear Abby: When I worked again, I decided not to talk to anyone about the second house that we bought in 2018 as the weekend.

I kept my mouth closed because I didn’t want my boss to think that I was rich and that I may not give myself an increase.

I recently retired and I remain in contact with many former colleagues. I feel bad never to have told them and continue not to share with them where I go with my husband on weekends.

Do I have to pass myself? If I tell them now, do I tell them that I did not trust that they would not share the news with my boss?

Although I did not lie, I feel guilty for not sharing with them.

What is your advice?

– Nervous in New Jersey

Dear nervous: To what extent would this information be relevant to your former colleagues? You are entitled to privacy, and there is no need to reveal the financial assets you have to anyone beyond your accountant and your lawyer. (And, of course, IRS if they ask.)

Stop whipping yourself on something that is not beeswax.

If you are referring to the fact that you and your husband have spent the weekend far from your main accommodation, who should know that it was not bought after your retirement?

Dear Abby: I am a 23 -year -old student who has trouble finding a direction in life.

I tried to find a part -time job and an internship, but I had no success.

This leaves me more and more anxious, especially since my parents, who currently help me with tuition fees and rent, age and cannot continue to work much longer.

Adding to my stress, my chosen field is considered unique in my culture, where people are often stereotypical in specific roles. It makes it more difficult for me to find opportunities or create connections. In addition to that, I adapt to a new culture which is the opposite of what I am used to. This is the first time that I have been sailing in such an environment, and I often feel excluded or that I do not understand certain things perfectly.

I am afraid of raising this with my parents, because it is common in my culture that parents can support the needs of their children.

I feel like I’m late. Feeling confused and poorly understood, my mind is at a crossroads, which adds to my anxiety. How can I start to find clarity and confidence in my situation?

– a little lost in Colorado

Dear a little lost: Many students find it difficult to adapt to university life. The fact that you come from another culture only adds to that.

Try to reach out to the dean of your department or speak to an advisor in student advisory services to find the help you are looking for. If there are other students in your culture, they can also be able to help you by explaining things.

Do these things and you can discover that you are not as lost as you fear it.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby on www.dearabby.com or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.