I’ve never understood people who explode, that is, people who seem to be very successful and have many reasons to be happy, but waste their happiness on irrational choices and petty grievances.
I never understood the guy who was born with a silver spoon in his mouth and then used it to dig himself a hole.
Or, to deploy a baseball metaphor – because I’m talking about the Angelos family feud today – consider the guy who was born on third base and thought he hit a triple, and even then takes too much ahead of the bag and gets picked up. He ruined everything!
I’m not saying you should never take risks. Many people succeed financially because they do just that. I’m just baffled by people who, through hard work or privilege, achieve a certain status – wealth, professional accomplishments, high opinion of their peers – and then lose one or all of those things because they let anger, greed or vanity consume them.
Why on earth are the Angelos brothers, John and Lou, arguing in public when the Baltimore Orioles, owned by their 93-year-old father, could be on the cusp of a new era of success?
And why would you want to sell the team when it’s possible you’ll be sitting in the owner’s box during the World Series in the not too distant future? Where is the joy?
Let me say that I have no personal experience with either of these guys. I only know what I’ve read in Sun reports, based on Baltimore County Circuit Court documents, and what a few insiders have shared. I’ve heard enough – and experienced enough of life – to say this: the separation between Lou and John is the worst. This is why people use the term “tragic” to describe the escalation of litigation.
I know: you can choose your friends, but not your family, and feuds break out all the time between siblings, born of rivalries that date back to the early years. There is a library full of scholarly works and fine literature devoted to this deep and dark subject.
But life is precious and shorter than you think. Going on your journey while arguing with a sibling, not talking to them – this is a terrible burden to bear throughout life.
There are those of us who have lost a beloved brother – not to a fight, but to death – and look at the Angelos brothers and say, guys, if this continues, you’re gonna hate what you feel for the rest of your lives.
A feud between siblings doesn’t have to escalate. There’s a thing called mediation, and while it’s already been tried in the Angelos feud, it should be tried again.
John and Lou could agree to call, say, lawyer and master negotiator Ron Shapiro and try to work things out. Formerly a sports agent, Shapiro represented Cal Ripken and other Hall of Famers. He has written books on how, in business or in life, opposing parties can win over everyone. One of its titles is “Bullies, Bullies and Impossible People: How to Beat Them Without Joining Them”.
Shapiro is certainly qualified to end the Angelos feud. If he is not available, there are others to help him: Oprah perhaps, or Gordon Ramsay!
Of course, to break the impasse, one of the Angelos fratelli must offer the trigger, end this cold war, and press the reset button.
Georgia Angelos, wife of Peter and mother of Lou and John, sided with John in all of this, casting Lou as the villain and the instigator.
I don’t know who is telling the truth, although I admit a bias in believing the mother. But I’ll say this to Lou: you’re not winning the PR battle yet; you may want to consider asking for peace talks.
And then, on behalf of the many Baltimoreans who want to enjoy the 2022 Orioles without this soap opera, I ask all three parties: Could you please sort this out in a yurt somewhere?
And on my question about selling the team: what Peter Angelos’ wife and sons decide to do is none of my business, but for the life of me, I don’t understand why, in addition to getting the big prize – Forbes values the Orioles Organization at $1.37 billion – you’d want to let another owner have some fun in the future.
Don’t the Angelose like owning a Major League side? It’s a very small club of Americans who can do that. Aren’t they proud to have hired sharp baseball executives to rebuild the organization?
I understand from one of the unfortunate lawsuits that it was Peter Angelos’ wish that the Orioles “be sold when he died so that Georgia could enjoy the great wealth they had amassed together.” But doesn’t Madame Angelos already enjoy great wealth? What will she do, rocket to Venus?
George Steinbrenner’s family managed to arrange to retain ownership and management of the New York Yankees after his death in 2010. Why can’t the Angelos brothers do that here?
They have the opportunity to be great men in Baltimore, real civic leaders. Letting the feud continue, ending with the sale of the franchise just when the team could enter an era of winning seasons and playoffs — that’s what I call blowing it up.