Chelsea Handler broke up with Jo Koy after nearly a year of dating because she realized “you can’t change a person intrinsically.”
The former ‘Chelsea Lately’ host opened up about her split from fellow comedian on the ‘We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle’ podcast on Thursday and said she had to walk away from the relationship because she wanted to keep herself from breaking as a result of bending too much.
“It’s nice to bend for people. It’s good to learn to compromise. It’s nice to learn how to publicly demonstrate my love. … I believe Jo needed it,” Handler, 47, explained.
“I was so inspired by us, but Jo didn’t open up to me. My psychiatrist opened me up, then I was opened up, and then I was able to bend for someone. …. But you can’t change someone intrinsically.
The ‘Life Will Be the Death of Me’ author admitted she was “wanting to do so much bending” until she hit “a line”.
“I’m proud of myself because I didn’t let myself cross that line,” she shared, later adding that they had actually broken up about a month before breaking the news publicly.
Handler explained how hard she had worked to process her trauma through therapy and meditation and suggested that Koy, 51, was not necessarily willing to meet her halfway.
“I understand the desire to avoid that, the avoidance of wanting to watch that,” she explained, “and I think I’m at a point in my life where I have to be with someone who’s there. where I am with this.
“It doesn’t say anything about Jo Koy,” she added. “I love him and he’s on his own way. If I have to choose a person, I have to choose myself.
The former ‘Chelsea’ also addressed her social media post breaking the news and said she thought Koy ‘needed to hear these things, and I really thought I had to say them’.
“Nobody cheated or anything like that. It just didn’t work out,” she clarified. making sure everyone knew it was a different me. This is the first time I’ve ended a relationship where I feel like an adult.
Despite the split, Handler credited the “Easter Sunday” star with reinvigorating her love for stand-up comedy and inspiring her to write a new book.
New York Post