Chappell Roan says that having children is hellish – and that all parents are not upset on this subject.
“All my friends who have children are in hell”, “hot to leave!” The singer shared in an episode of March 26 of the podcast “Call Her Daddy”.
“In fact, I do not know anyone who is like, happy and has children at this age,” said Roan, 27, adding: “I have literally encountered anyone who is happy, whoever has light in the eyes, whoever slept.”
“It doesn’t seem too good,” replied Alex Cooper, the host of “Call Her Daddy”.
Many mothers exhausted with flickering light in their eyes supported Roan.
- “Mothers are so tired!” It’s true.”
- “Yes. Finally someone who speaks my tongue.”
- “Mom of 49 years of adult children. You are not mistaken, girl. Being a mom in this country is … hard. “
- “I felt it in my soul.”
- “I love my child with all my heart but everything she said was absolutely true for me.”
- “She tells the truth. Being a parent is hell. “
- “You must understand: in the Midwest, many people get married and have children by obligation, not because they really want children. I know a lot of people like that and they are miserable.”
Happy parents, well rested and with shiny eyes did not agree.
- “Have children = the greatest honor of my life.”
- “Good mother of three here!”
- “It’s so much more nuanced than” maternity is the best / worse “. It is difficult and she just showed that she was not the person that her friends let off steam about the hard parts because she judges. »»
- “It’s valid, but personally, I don’t know anyone who lost their spark after having children. All love it. “
- “As tired as ever, nothing has filled my cup more than hugs, laughter and growth of my kids. Helping them to become good and kind humans is the honor of my life and I am a happy mother. ”
- “Hit completely deaf.”
Who is happier – parents or non -children?
Like Jennifer Glass, professor of sociology at the University of Texas in Austin, told CNBC, feeling “satisfied” with the decision to have children does not necessarily equal “happiness”.
“It is not the same as financial well-being, good physical health or good emotional health”, “ Glass told CNBC.
Research shows that parents experience a “bump of happiness” just after the birth of a baby. But that tends to dissipate for a year, says Glass – because he settles in the extent that parenting is more than cooing a baby.
Glass noted in a 2017 study co-written by Glass that parenting is more difficult in the United States compared to other countries, given our lack of parental leave and other advantages for mothers and dads.
Although research was published almost 10 years ago, it is still true in 2025: parents in the United States are not paid parental leave and the cost of childcare is “untenable” for many, according to the United States Census Bureau.
Although Roan said “call her dad” that she and her “brilliant” mom’s friends have “have” such different lives “, they always party – even if they have to hire baby -sitters.
“They are mothers, they are busy and they have jobs and lives,” said Roan, joking, “when I go home, I like to remember to destroy public goods with them and to make s — illegal,” she joked.
