Ask Eric: you have heard of marriage, but this couple (literally) takes the cake

Dear Eric: I have read the letter of “Disability”, whose nephew planned his marriage the same weekend as the 100th anniversary of the mother of the letter, I only have to share this with you.

My husband and I have been married for 51 years. We paid our marriage ourselves, coming from workers’ families.

My husband’s cousin was also engaged. The man she was engaged came from a family who had money. They escaped the same day that we got married and had just come to our reception.

We are at our reception sitting at the honor table when her mother, the aunt of my husband, presents himself and asks us to take the meal until their arrival. I was really surprised but I was not going to leave it to ruin our day. I just said politely not because we had a schedule to keep.

They arrived and did a big task. We did not let it ruin our day because we thought that our guests would see them just for what they were. We had a great time – good food and a lot of dance and rejoicing and a wonderful moment was spent by all.

– Double pleasure

Dear pleasure: oh my God! I heard all kinds of money economy advice for weddings, but it takes the cake, literally. I’m glad you are such a good sport on this subject and that you have not let your joy decrease.

Dear Eric: You have given good practical advice to “Left by Friends”, a recently retired lawyer whose friends have “disappeared” after a rare diagnosis of dementia.

Here is an additional perspective:

No one chooses to obtain dementia. Without well -established prevention or healing, we will all agree that dementia is not the fault of the person who has it. Joining support groups or taking measures to get involved socially are good ideas for the person living with dementia, but the solutions are not to bear.

Consider this: Dementia visit one in 10 of us around the retirement age, and one in three of us a few decades thereafter. To this prevalence, each of us knows someone living with dementia, whether we realize it or not.

We all have the opportunity as family and friends to learn to take care and support our loved ones with dementia. Perhaps those of us with healthy brains even have social responsibility to do so.

Friends who deserve to be kept will not run away, but will not run towards those who live with dementia. “Run to” usually start by taking a short training course. Virtual sessions are available from certified nurses from the Dementia Institute; Many communities across the country also have training in person.

– Run to

Dear running to: this perspective is so precious. We are talking a lot about the importance of preventive care; It seems to me a kind of proactive care. I love the idea that we can significantly prepare to support dear beings, knowledge and even foreigners before a diagnosis.