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Adriana Karembeu, mother at 46: “Don’t do like me” – Why it’s no longer exceptional to have a baby after 40

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How has the birth of your daughter changed your life? In “Paris Match”, you had very touching words: “Life began when I gave birth to my daughter”.

With the birth of Nina, I became someone else, it erased everything. At 46, I needed this big “reset”. For the first time in my life, I felt good in my sneakers. Something in my brain snapped back into place. Everything became logical. Since then, I am no longer afraid.

Nina is now 4 years old. What little girl is she?

She’s the best little girl in the world. Obviously, it’s the most beautiful (smiles). My daughter is great, she has a lot of character. It’s the complete opposite of me: when I was little, I was afraid of everything, afraid of life. Nina is not afraid to talk to people, to try things. She’s curious, she’s a bit of a tomboy. She goes towards life and I find that wonderful. His life will probably be easier than mine. Because fear is a brake. Do not be afraid, it is a very great gift.

I was afraid of doing wrong, of not being a good mother, of not being up to

When was your desire for a child born?

Adriana Karembeu alongside her second husband, Aram Ohanian. (Thierry Carpico/EPA)

My husband (businessman Aram Ohanian whom she married in 2014, editor’s note) encouraged me enormously. Without him, it would probably have been complicated… Since I was afraid of doing wrong, of not being a good mother, of not being up to it. I was afraid of everything. We talked about it for hours and hours. He guided me on this path. Before, I was clearly not ready.

Was this blockage due to your childhood?

Indeed. My father caused a lot of damage… When I was little, I had the impression that having a child at home was negative. My brain was conditioned to that.

Wanting to become a mother is not everything: what was your career path then?

I got pregnant naturally. But I lost the baby. My gynecologist then advised me to do IVF (in vitro fertilization, Ed). The third was the good one. Nina is a miracle.

Of course, our society is changing: we have children later than before, but that doesn’t mean that pregnancy after 40 is easy. Women say to themselves: “I have time! “. No it is wrong. Getting pregnant is a hassle! I want to shout from the rooftops: “Watch out: have children before you turn 40! Don’t be like me”. And maybe it won’t be possible at all. You have to be aware that it is much harder. Me, I felt good, I was pretty, I said to myself: “I can have a child when I want”. Well no !

I loved being pregnant, I savored every second of it

What difference does being an “elderly” mother make?

When we know that it will probably be the last, we take advantage of it every moment. I loved being pregnant, I savored every second of it. However, my pregnancy was not super easy. After Nina’s birth, I tried IVF again, but it was no longer possible… I was really right to take advantage of it. But it happened too quickly.

Aren’t you afraid of not being present at all the key stages of your daughter’s life?

It’s something I keep in the back of my mind… My grandmother raised me, because my mother was still in school. She was my mom for the first five years of my life. But she left too soon, she was 64 years old. You can have a life with someone that lasts a very long time – I’m thinking here of my father – and have no good memories of it, or very few. My father does not accompany me in my life, unlike my grandmother. For my daughter, I can’t go back, but I can give her good memories.

To note

Host of “Extraordinary Powers of the Human Body” on France 2 and ambassador for La Croix-Rouge, Adriana Karembeu has just published “Ma cuisine gourmande sans grosir” with Comme J’aime editions.

Why it's no longer exceptional to have a baby after 40



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