Posting her story on social media for others to see and give their opinion, one woman said she has been with her fiancé for five years and the couple have been engaged for four months – but with the wedding on the horizon. come in the coming months, she doesn’t know what. TO DO.
“So far I’ve been pretty excited,” she wrote on Reddit. “But there’s a pit in my stomach that I’m trying to ignore. Something’s wrong.”
She told others: “Any advice is appreciated, especially if you’ve had the same feelings.” »
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She said: “Over the last two years I feel like I’m not in love anymore. The man I was crazy about, I look at him and I feel so resentful. I still love him, but I don’t love him like him anymore.”
She learned, she added, that “her mother absolutely hates me too – I know I would marry her and not her mother, but finding out that seems like my breaking point.”
“I’m so hurt, embarrassed and alone,” one bride-to-be said. (iStock)
She called her family “horrible people” and said she “didn’t want to involve myself further in this, as well as any potential children we might have.”
Meanwhile, his own family members, she shared, “have been so kind and welcoming to him. They completely adore him, so all the effort I’ve made to be part of his family have been completely stopped. I’m so hurt, embarrassed.” and lonely.”
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The economic aspects of the event are concerning, she said.
“I am terrified of the shame and negative reactions from my family.”
“At this point, we paid $800 for a non-refundable hotel room, a $1,600 deposit for our venue and, if we canceled, (we) would be charged an additional $2,000,” the woman said, using his name. “ImaginaryKick5478.”
She said the rest of the costs had to “be borne by the family”.
She continued, “I know people will say that canceling a marriage will cost less than a divorce, but I really don’t have $4,500 to cover sunk costs.”
“I feel like I’m on autopilot,” one bride-to-be wrote on Reddit, “and time is running out before the accident.” (iStock)
The woman said that “most importantly, I am terrified of shame and negative reactions from family. My father particularly loves my partner and thinks everything is fine, and would not support me if we broke up.”
She said there was no one “who would be a support system in my life, and that reason alone is almost entirely why I went through marriage. I feel like I’m on autopilot and time is running out before the accident.
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She said she suffered “real panic attacks” over the idea of ”going through a difficult breakup while having a family that is so involved and likely to constantly put him and our failed engagement first.”
“Leaving” the relationship, she says, “is a lot easier said than done.”
The woman added: “I told my fiancé all of these feelings directly, and he thinks I’m just being dramatic and upset and that my feelings are going to explode. I wish he knew that I fell in love. Most importantly, I still want to love him like I used to.”
“I would rather have an unhappy marriage,” one woman wrote on social media, than endure certain things. (iStock)
She added: “I feel like being with him was the biggest mistake of my life, and I just wish I could take it all back.”
Yet “leaving” the relationship, she says, “is much easier said than done.”
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She wrote: “I would be financially ruined and destroy my relationship with my immediate family, and I would rather be in an unhappy marriage than have both of those things happen.”
“Is there anything else I can do, or will this only get worse?”
She ended her message: “I’m trying to keep this relationship going and do what I can to avoid canceling it, but I know time is running out. Couples therapy? A weekend away? Is- Is there anything else I can do, or will it only get worse?”
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So far, around 1,200 people have responded to the tragedy. Commenters on Reddit were frank and forthright with the original poster, with some suggesting the woman already knew the answer to her dilemma.
“I don’t see any other option than to cancel the wedding,” one person wrote.
“What is never acceptable is to lie and deceive someone, especially a loved one,” said a psychologist. (iStock)
Another said: “Stop being a people pleaser and make yourself happy.” »
Another said, in part, “I think if you have to ask, you know the answer deep down.”
Someone else wrote in detail: “The price you’ll pay to get out of your current situation will be much, much cheaper than the price you’ll pay later with kids in tow (coming from a divorced father of five children).”
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Another person said: “Sister, you know what’s going on.”
A clinical psychologist recently told Fox News Digital, in response to a different but somewhat similar marriage drama: “What is never acceptable is to lie and cheat on someone – especially a loved one .”
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The psychologist said she would ‘encourage’ the struggling partner ‘to speak privately with each family member involved, starting with the one you are closest to’ – and seek to let others know what is going on so that the problem can be resolved.
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