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A veterinarian never gets used to the loss of animals

Dear Amy: I know you are an animal lover, so I would appreciate your perspective on this.

I am a veterinarian and always offer my sincere condolences when a client loses a pet. I send a card, I donate to an animal charity, and I often send an email or a phone call.

Recently I lost my beloved dog and was slightly dismayed by the reactions of people I have known for many years.

Very few offered their condolences. The general attitude was that I “should be used to it”.

Amy, a vet never gets used to it. It’s such a helpless feeling to not be able to care for your own pet, even when you logically know everything has been done.

I try not to hold a grudge about it, but it’s hard.

– Grace

Dear Grace: I’m so sorry. Anyone who has said goodbye to a beloved pet mourns the loss of a companion and a bond of friendship that is very difficult to describe, but should be easy to understand. Losing that connection causes a special kind of grief.

I will quote the late great poet Mary Oliver, whose collection “Dog Songs: Poems” (2015, Penguin) is a tender, touching and funny tribute to the dogs that crossed her life:

“Because of the joy of the dog, ours is increased.

It’s not a small gift. »


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